Break up with yourself (Don't lose yourself in yourself)

I was talking to a friend of mine about a dating situation she was in/
She had expressed that she liked a guy but she couldn't figure out why it was that she acted like she didn't/
Now I know we all stay in situations longer than we need to or put up with more than we should/
But she didn't even allow it to get to that stage..it had only been one date/
finally she told me the guy doesnt want to talk to her in the same manner that he once did/
I expressed these words of advice to her/

People get so caught up on being hurt that they hurt themselves before the growth of happiness can even happen/ If you walk into a situation thinking you know everything about a person you have never spoken to longer than it takes for you to say the alphabet/
how can you expect to be happy with someone else?/
Break up with yourself/

the following steps may need to be repeated more than once for those of you that believe you're never wrong or just plain stubborn

Take yourself to a public place (movies,out to eat, etc)/
order your favorite meal (eat)/
come up with some excuse why you have to leave/
Go home sit there with your tears as your only company/
Sulk and stop doing the things you enjoy (because lets face it you can't really enjoy life without the person that makes it worth living)/
After about 3 days of that go on a date with someone else and do everything they want to do (because you dont deserve to be happy because you have already messed up your happiness, might as well focus on someone else and their happiness)/
After however many attempts you will notice a difference in you (if it is the right person and you will know)/
You will smile more/
Laugh a little harder/
try a little harder/
give a little more to get more/
Hell you might even be happy with someone else other than the lonely sheets you curl up in at night or day/
Asking God to send you someone that understands you/
Can finish you sentences (and whatever other fairytale adjectives you can think of)/
is really silly because it takes years for people to get to that level in some cases it only takes months/
Stop trying to get all the reward without putting in the work for it/

And can we stop acting like dating is not a "try-out"/
It is true a person is always proving themselves to be another/
Some people may not agree and that is ok/
But your probably the person that has no mate and gives all the advice to those that do have someone/
Feeding them the mess that a relationship isn't suppose to be filled with work between two people/
Look... the very idea of being with someone for longer than a day takes work because you have to fight the overwhelming feeling of wanting to do the things you want to do for yourself/

And I know I have been guilty of it a few times in my life thinking i am right when i am wrong/
Now that we have that out the way/
Never take yourself too seriously and miss out on the fun that life has to offer/